I've known her for a couple months now and had a chat about becoming good friends. But she says that it can't happen over night and I understand that. I think the problem is that we live far apart and go to two different schools and only see each other @ work on the weekends. How can I become a good friend of hers? I mean you can't ';force'; someone to be a good friend of yours.............How do you become a ';good'; friend with a girl?
How you ask? You have to be nice and kind and caring of her feelings above yours but don't put your feelings in the vault. You have to show her that you like her with actions of kindness like carrying her heavy loads or letting her go ahead through a door or you offering to help her on something she is struggling with. Overall, be a gentleman. It is what girls want now adays.How do you become a ';good'; friend with a girl?
If you're looking for a romantic thing with this girl forget about being a good friend. That is romantic suicide. Once a friend it is soooo difficult to switch over to romance.
Hmm....Luckily u are not chasing her. Just be friends, then sometimes just spend time visit her. Try talk to her more often and let her feel that u r safe...
You need to pay attention to her, learn everything you can about her...her likes/dislikes. Remember the things she tells you. Provide for her when she is in need. Listen to her.
Just hang out, talk, and do nice things for her. You don't have to take it overboard though. Just do what you would with your other friends except be a little nicer about holding doors or buying the dinner.
lat time do it's work, don't roach it lat it jest happen
Sunday, December 11, 2011
How do i become friend with a girl?
im in middle school and there is this girl id like to be friends with but i dont know anything about her how would i become her friend?How do i become friend with a girl?
if your in any classes with her, maybe you'll end up doing group work. then you could get to know what she's like a little more. This would give you a chance to talk as well.
the best way is just to be nice and say hi to her when you see her.How do i become friend with a girl?
I was shy in middle school, so I always waited for a person to come and talk to me. If you ever end up by her, say hi to her and start a conversation. Get her e-mail or phone number if all goes well. :]
Most girls like outspoken guys if shes preppy then she'll go for boys with braces and skinny boys in sports also if she has a boyfriend lay off or there will be pain and trips to the guidance counselors it sucks big time has she even looked at u.
if your in any classes with her, maybe you'll end up doing group work. then you could get to know what she's like a little more. This would give you a chance to talk as well.
the best way is just to be nice and say hi to her when you see her.How do i become friend with a girl?
I was shy in middle school, so I always waited for a person to come and talk to me. If you ever end up by her, say hi to her and start a conversation. Get her e-mail or phone number if all goes well. :]
Most girls like outspoken guys if shes preppy then she'll go for boys with braces and skinny boys in sports also if she has a boyfriend lay off or there will be pain and trips to the guidance counselors it sucks big time has she even looked at u.
Theres a girl who just moved in how to i become friends with her?
well theres a girl who just moved in and im really shy and so is she i dont know what to say to her how to i become friends and get a conversation going what should i do to become friends with her?Theres a girl who just moved in how to i become friends with her?
-say hi
-introduce yourself
-ask basic questions ';where did you move from?'; or ';When is your birthday?'; etc. to keep a convo going
-be yourself
-make plans for you and her
don't worry, i'm shy, too, haha....Theres a girl who just moved in how to i become friends with her?
when you see her in the street or the garden say hi
I know this is stupid but kick a football in to there garden 'by accident' lol and use it as an excuse to say hi and introduce your self
good luck mate:D
-say hi
-introduce yourself
-ask basic questions ';where did you move from?'; or ';When is your birthday?'; etc. to keep a convo going
-be yourself
-make plans for you and her
don't worry, i'm shy, too, haha....Theres a girl who just moved in how to i become friends with her?
when you see her in the street or the garden say hi
I know this is stupid but kick a football in to there garden 'by accident' lol and use it as an excuse to say hi and introduce your self
good luck mate:D
Asian girl, worried about making friends in US College?
I currently live in Asia, and will be starting college as a freshman in the USA. I graduated from a international secondary school, and had no problems making friends... but they were all Asians (although it was an international school, there were only a few non-Asians). Now that I'll be living in the US, I'd like to be able to befriend more non-Asian people.
Although I was quite shy during middle school, in my senior years I became more outgoing made quite a lot of friends. I wasn't popular or unpopular, and would get along pretty well with people who weren't very close to me. I'm worried that this is all going to change in the US :(
I used to live in the States from 3rd-5th grade, but that was elementary school... and I have no idea how I'll be able to make friends with teenage Americans! I don't watch TV series, my interests mostly have to do with Asian things, I'm not a huge gossiper, but I like to go out and party (which is completely legal where I live for my age). My friends over here consider me as fun but sometimes anti-social because I don't text/msn much. Any advice on how I'd be able to make American friends- both girls and guys? Not that I don't want to become friends with Asians, it's just that all the friend groups in my high school were basically divided into different ethnic groups and I don't know how to make friends with non-Asians :S Help would be greatly appreciated!Asian girl, worried about making friends in US College?
You're probably worrying too much about it.
And you probably shouldn't try to be too much like American kids, anyway. Many of them have lost sight of what's really important in life. Too much partying, too much drugs, too much video games, too much texting, too much music and TV...
...and not enough reading, thinking, contemplating, studying., etc.
It sounds like you're already there... appreciating and living those things. Don't come here and screw it up because of peer pressure!
Be your own person. Be humble, yet assertive when necessary. Be kind and generous. Be friendly and courteous. Be caring and a good listener. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Have the courage of your convictions, and be yourself, not what you THINK you should be because everyone else is.
Do these things, and finding friends will take care of itself. As long as you don't come across arrogant or cool or aloof while doing it, believe me, friends will desire you... and flock to you in droves. Maybe not at first, mind you... but the word will get around. Depending on where you are going to school in the US, you may, as an Asian, be a bit of a novelty. If so, people will already be talking about you. If you're really remarkble and amazing and nice and kind and polite and caring and obviously interested in others, believe me, they'll be talking about THAT the most.
And friends will come. Just don't let them corrupt you. People always want others to do as they do so that they don't feel like they're standing out in the crowd... or that they're the odd ball. Don't fall for it if you think it's not right. Use your good sense and judgement. Follow your gut. Pay heed to your upbringing. Not everything your parents taught you was stupid.... as you'll learn, and will become glaringly apparent to you, as you grow older.
You'll be fine. This is a new adventure. Embrace it with enthusism, not fear or dread. We Americans put our pants on one leg at a time, just like you. And our poop stinks, too. We're not special. But you, actually, seem to be. Good for you. Hold onto that and let it be that which differentiates you, and makes others like you.
Hope that helps. Good luck!
EDIT: While I was writing the above, PE2008 wrote: ';Asian girls are very popular among American men, who are rather tired of crotch-scratching, foul-mouthed, hairy-legged, American feminist women. You will do well.';
Ha!!!!
[shakes head in disbelief]
First of all, PE2008 is obviously under a common American male misconception. As the questioner will affirm, Asian women are by no means timid or passive unless they darned well WANT to be. Most of them can verily kick most white males' butts! Ah... stereotypes.
At any rate, it is true that there is something of an ';Asian fetish'; among certain white American males... as PE2008, assuming he's male, is actually exhibiting with what he wrote. As an Asian young woman, you should be aware of this, and appropriately wary. Be mindful of the irrational fascination. Make ANY man like you for the content of your character and not the contents of your pants. If you find true love from a white male in the USA, more power to you. Be aware, though, of how your parents and family back home may or may not particularly like the idea; and don't discount basic cultural differences and how they may, over time, impact your relationship... for better or worse.
But, honestly, you're here to study, dear. So study. Stay focused... and a bit frosty.
Don't necessarily AVOID relationships, but just don't let them happen easily, either. School doesn't actually last as long as it seems. It only seems like a long time because it's such a large percentage of how long you've even been alive... and everything is relative. When you're in your forties, you'll think back on college's four years, and it will seem like such a short time that you'll swear you could do it standing on one foot.
Fall in love for REAL after school. Decide what swamp you're going to drain, and drain it. For now, school is that swamp. Drain that, and let all else wait.Asian girl, worried about making friends in US College?
Asian girls are very popular among American men, who are rather tired of crotch-scratching, foul-mouthed, hairly-legged, American feminist women. You will do well.
Anyone who attempts to dismiss this preference among American men for Asian woman as a ';fetish'; is humorously naive and pedantic.
You'll make friends! Don't worry about the jerks because they will hate anyone. You'll have a good time and don't worry about it. I wish more schools would have asian women! No but seriously your cool. Just don't get into trouble and always have respect towards others and you'll be liked. Join sports or clubs like chess, math, or whatever. Have fun because when you grow up you'll have to work. That sucks because bosses are strick and our economy sucks. Any way have real fun and stay safe. Good luck!
First of all, don't worry. Just relax.
Of course it can be scary going off to a foreign country and meeting new people there, but colleges are one of the easiest places to meet new friends.
The easiest way to make friends is to just try to get to know your classmates. Take whatever opportunities you get to start conversations and just talk to each other. If they invite you out to do something, always accept their invitation (as long as it's something you feel comfortable with). Even if their plan doesn't sound too interesting, at the least it's a good way to meet people. And if you really need help making friends, you can always join clubs or groups to get to know people better. Campuses always have lots of organizations looking for members.
And Americans also like to go out and party as much as anyone I've met from other countries, so you'll have that in common. Good luck.
Although I was quite shy during middle school, in my senior years I became more outgoing made quite a lot of friends. I wasn't popular or unpopular, and would get along pretty well with people who weren't very close to me. I'm worried that this is all going to change in the US :(
I used to live in the States from 3rd-5th grade, but that was elementary school... and I have no idea how I'll be able to make friends with teenage Americans! I don't watch TV series, my interests mostly have to do with Asian things, I'm not a huge gossiper, but I like to go out and party (which is completely legal where I live for my age). My friends over here consider me as fun but sometimes anti-social because I don't text/msn much. Any advice on how I'd be able to make American friends- both girls and guys? Not that I don't want to become friends with Asians, it's just that all the friend groups in my high school were basically divided into different ethnic groups and I don't know how to make friends with non-Asians :S Help would be greatly appreciated!Asian girl, worried about making friends in US College?
You're probably worrying too much about it.
And you probably shouldn't try to be too much like American kids, anyway. Many of them have lost sight of what's really important in life. Too much partying, too much drugs, too much video games, too much texting, too much music and TV...
...and not enough reading, thinking, contemplating, studying., etc.
It sounds like you're already there... appreciating and living those things. Don't come here and screw it up because of peer pressure!
Be your own person. Be humble, yet assertive when necessary. Be kind and generous. Be friendly and courteous. Be caring and a good listener. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Have the courage of your convictions, and be yourself, not what you THINK you should be because everyone else is.
Do these things, and finding friends will take care of itself. As long as you don't come across arrogant or cool or aloof while doing it, believe me, friends will desire you... and flock to you in droves. Maybe not at first, mind you... but the word will get around. Depending on where you are going to school in the US, you may, as an Asian, be a bit of a novelty. If so, people will already be talking about you. If you're really remarkble and amazing and nice and kind and polite and caring and obviously interested in others, believe me, they'll be talking about THAT the most.
And friends will come. Just don't let them corrupt you. People always want others to do as they do so that they don't feel like they're standing out in the crowd... or that they're the odd ball. Don't fall for it if you think it's not right. Use your good sense and judgement. Follow your gut. Pay heed to your upbringing. Not everything your parents taught you was stupid.... as you'll learn, and will become glaringly apparent to you, as you grow older.
You'll be fine. This is a new adventure. Embrace it with enthusism, not fear or dread. We Americans put our pants on one leg at a time, just like you. And our poop stinks, too. We're not special. But you, actually, seem to be. Good for you. Hold onto that and let it be that which differentiates you, and makes others like you.
Hope that helps. Good luck!
EDIT: While I was writing the above, PE2008 wrote: ';Asian girls are very popular among American men, who are rather tired of crotch-scratching, foul-mouthed, hairy-legged, American feminist women. You will do well.';
Ha!!!!
[shakes head in disbelief]
First of all, PE2008 is obviously under a common American male misconception. As the questioner will affirm, Asian women are by no means timid or passive unless they darned well WANT to be. Most of them can verily kick most white males' butts! Ah... stereotypes.
At any rate, it is true that there is something of an ';Asian fetish'; among certain white American males... as PE2008, assuming he's male, is actually exhibiting with what he wrote. As an Asian young woman, you should be aware of this, and appropriately wary. Be mindful of the irrational fascination. Make ANY man like you for the content of your character and not the contents of your pants. If you find true love from a white male in the USA, more power to you. Be aware, though, of how your parents and family back home may or may not particularly like the idea; and don't discount basic cultural differences and how they may, over time, impact your relationship... for better or worse.
But, honestly, you're here to study, dear. So study. Stay focused... and a bit frosty.
Don't necessarily AVOID relationships, but just don't let them happen easily, either. School doesn't actually last as long as it seems. It only seems like a long time because it's such a large percentage of how long you've even been alive... and everything is relative. When you're in your forties, you'll think back on college's four years, and it will seem like such a short time that you'll swear you could do it standing on one foot.
Fall in love for REAL after school. Decide what swamp you're going to drain, and drain it. For now, school is that swamp. Drain that, and let all else wait.Asian girl, worried about making friends in US College?
Asian girls are very popular among American men, who are rather tired of crotch-scratching, foul-mouthed, hairly-legged, American feminist women. You will do well.
Anyone who attempts to dismiss this preference among American men for Asian woman as a ';fetish'; is humorously naive and pedantic.
You'll make friends! Don't worry about the jerks because they will hate anyone. You'll have a good time and don't worry about it. I wish more schools would have asian women! No but seriously your cool. Just don't get into trouble and always have respect towards others and you'll be liked. Join sports or clubs like chess, math, or whatever. Have fun because when you grow up you'll have to work. That sucks because bosses are strick and our economy sucks. Any way have real fun and stay safe. Good luck!
First of all, don't worry. Just relax.
Of course it can be scary going off to a foreign country and meeting new people there, but colleges are one of the easiest places to meet new friends.
The easiest way to make friends is to just try to get to know your classmates. Take whatever opportunities you get to start conversations and just talk to each other. If they invite you out to do something, always accept their invitation (as long as it's something you feel comfortable with). Even if their plan doesn't sound too interesting, at the least it's a good way to meet people. And if you really need help making friends, you can always join clubs or groups to get to know people better. Campuses always have lots of organizations looking for members.
And Americans also like to go out and party as much as anyone I've met from other countries, so you'll have that in common. Good luck.
Asian girl, worried about making friends in US College?
I currently live in Asia, and will be starting college as a freshman in the USA. I graduated from a international secondary school, and had no problems making friends... but they were all Asians (although it was an international school, there were only a few non-Asians). Now that I'll be living in the US, I'd like to be able to befriend more non-Asian people.
Although I was quite shy during middle school, in my senior years I became more outgoing made quite a lot of friends. I wasn't popular or unpopular, and would get along pretty well with people who weren't very close to me. I'm worried that this is all going to change in the US :(
I used to live in the States from 3rd-5th grade, but that was elementary school... and I have no idea how I'll be able to make friends with teenage Americans! I don't watch TV series, my interests mostly have to do with Asian things, I'm not a huge gossiper, but I like to go out and party (which is completely legal where I live for my age). My friends over here consider me as fun but sometimes anti-social because I don't text/msn much. Any advice on how I'd be able to make American friends- both girls and guys? Not that I don't want to become friends with Asians, it's just that all the friend groups in my high school were basically divided into different ethnic groups and I don't know how to make friends with non-Asians :S Help would be greatly appreciated!Asian girl, worried about making friends in US College?
You're probably worrying too much about it.
And you probably shouldn't try to be too much like American kids, anyway. Many of them have lost sight of what's really important in life. Too much partying, too much drugs, too much video games, too much texting, too much music and TV...
...and not enough reading, thinking, contemplating, studying., etc.
It sounds like you're already there... appreciating and living those things. Don't come here and screw it up because of peer pressure!
Be your own person. Be humble, yet assertive when necessary. Be kind and generous. Be friendly and courteous. Be caring and a good listener. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Have the courage of your convictions, and be yourself, not what you THINK you should be because everyone else is.
Do these things, and finding friends will take care of itself. As long as you don't come across arrogant or cool or aloof while doing it, believe me, friends will desire you... and flock to you in droves. Maybe not at first, mind you... but the word will get around. Depending on where you are going to school in the US, you may, as an Asian, be a bit of a novelty. If so, people will already be talking about you. If you're really remarkble and amazing and nice and kind and polite and caring and obviously interested in others, believe me, they'll be talking about THAT the most.
And friends will come. Just don't let them corrupt you. People always want others to do as they do so that they don't feel like they're standing out in the crowd... or that they're the odd ball. Don't fall for it if you think it's not right. Use your good sense and judgement. Follow your gut. Pay heed to your upbringing. Not everything your parents taught you was stupid.... as you'll learn, and will become glaringly apparent to you, as you grow older.
You'll be fine. This is a new adventure. Embrace it with enthusism, not fear or dread. We Americans put our pants on one leg at a time, just like you. And our poop stinks, too. We're not special. But you, actually, seem to be. Good for you. Hold onto that and let it be that which differentiates you, and makes others like you.
Hope that helps. Good luck!
EDIT: While I was writing the above, PE2008 wrote: ';Asian girls are very popular among American men, who are rather tired of crotch-scratching, foul-mouthed, hairy-legged, American feminist women. You will do well.';
Ha!!!!
[shakes head in disbelief]
First of all, PE2008 is obviously under a common American male misconception. As the questioner will affirm, Asian women are by no means timid or passive unless they darned well WANT to be. Most of them can verily kick most white males' butts! Ah... stereotypes.
At any rate, it is true that there is something of an ';Asian fetish'; among certain white American males... as PE2008, assuming he's male, is actually exhibiting with what he wrote. As an Asian young woman, you should be aware of this, and appropriately wary. Be mindful of the irrational fascination. Make ANY man like you for the content of your character and not the contents of your pants. If you find true love from a white male in the USA, more power to you. Be aware, though, of how your parents and family back home may or may not particularly like the idea; and don't discount basic cultural differences and how they may, over time, impact your relationship... for better or worse.
But, honestly, you're here to study, dear. So study. Stay focused... and a bit frosty.
Don't necessarily AVOID relationships, but just don't let them happen easily, either. School doesn't actually last as long as it seems. It only seems like a long time because it's such a large percentage of how long you've even been alive... and everything is relative. When you're in your forties, you'll think back on college's four years, and it will seem like such a short time that you'll swear you could do it standing on one foot.
Fall in love for REAL after school. Decide what swamp you're going to drain, and drain it. For now, school is that swamp. Drain that, and let all else wait.Asian girl, worried about making friends in US College?
Asian girls are very popular among American men, who are rather tired of crotch-scratching, foul-mouthed, hairly-legged, American feminist women. You will do well.
Anyone who attempts to dismiss this preference among American men for Asian woman as a ';fetish'; is humorously naive and pedantic.
You'll make friends! Don't worry about the jerks because they will hate anyone. You'll have a good time and don't worry about it. I wish more schools would have asian women! No but seriously your cool. Just don't get into trouble and always have respect towards others and you'll be liked. Join sports or clubs like chess, math, or whatever. Have fun because when you grow up you'll have to work. That sucks because bosses are strick and our economy sucks. Any way have real fun and stay safe. Good luck!
First of all, don't worry. Just relax.
Of course it can be scary going off to a foreign country and meeting new people there, but colleges are one of the easiest places to meet new friends.
The easiest way to make friends is to just try to get to know your classmates. Take whatever opportunities you get to start conversations and just talk to each other. If they invite you out to do something, always accept their invitation (as long as it's something you feel comfortable with). Even if their plan doesn't sound too interesting, at the least it's a good way to meet people. And if you really need help making friends, you can always join clubs or groups to get to know people better. Campuses always have lots of organizations looking for members.
And Americans also like to go out and party as much as anyone I've met from other countries, so you'll have that in common. Good luck.
Although I was quite shy during middle school, in my senior years I became more outgoing made quite a lot of friends. I wasn't popular or unpopular, and would get along pretty well with people who weren't very close to me. I'm worried that this is all going to change in the US :(
I used to live in the States from 3rd-5th grade, but that was elementary school... and I have no idea how I'll be able to make friends with teenage Americans! I don't watch TV series, my interests mostly have to do with Asian things, I'm not a huge gossiper, but I like to go out and party (which is completely legal where I live for my age). My friends over here consider me as fun but sometimes anti-social because I don't text/msn much. Any advice on how I'd be able to make American friends- both girls and guys? Not that I don't want to become friends with Asians, it's just that all the friend groups in my high school were basically divided into different ethnic groups and I don't know how to make friends with non-Asians :S Help would be greatly appreciated!Asian girl, worried about making friends in US College?
You're probably worrying too much about it.
And you probably shouldn't try to be too much like American kids, anyway. Many of them have lost sight of what's really important in life. Too much partying, too much drugs, too much video games, too much texting, too much music and TV...
...and not enough reading, thinking, contemplating, studying., etc.
It sounds like you're already there... appreciating and living those things. Don't come here and screw it up because of peer pressure!
Be your own person. Be humble, yet assertive when necessary. Be kind and generous. Be friendly and courteous. Be caring and a good listener. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Have the courage of your convictions, and be yourself, not what you THINK you should be because everyone else is.
Do these things, and finding friends will take care of itself. As long as you don't come across arrogant or cool or aloof while doing it, believe me, friends will desire you... and flock to you in droves. Maybe not at first, mind you... but the word will get around. Depending on where you are going to school in the US, you may, as an Asian, be a bit of a novelty. If so, people will already be talking about you. If you're really remarkble and amazing and nice and kind and polite and caring and obviously interested in others, believe me, they'll be talking about THAT the most.
And friends will come. Just don't let them corrupt you. People always want others to do as they do so that they don't feel like they're standing out in the crowd... or that they're the odd ball. Don't fall for it if you think it's not right. Use your good sense and judgement. Follow your gut. Pay heed to your upbringing. Not everything your parents taught you was stupid.... as you'll learn, and will become glaringly apparent to you, as you grow older.
You'll be fine. This is a new adventure. Embrace it with enthusism, not fear or dread. We Americans put our pants on one leg at a time, just like you. And our poop stinks, too. We're not special. But you, actually, seem to be. Good for you. Hold onto that and let it be that which differentiates you, and makes others like you.
Hope that helps. Good luck!
EDIT: While I was writing the above, PE2008 wrote: ';Asian girls are very popular among American men, who are rather tired of crotch-scratching, foul-mouthed, hairy-legged, American feminist women. You will do well.';
Ha!!!!
[shakes head in disbelief]
First of all, PE2008 is obviously under a common American male misconception. As the questioner will affirm, Asian women are by no means timid or passive unless they darned well WANT to be. Most of them can verily kick most white males' butts! Ah... stereotypes.
At any rate, it is true that there is something of an ';Asian fetish'; among certain white American males... as PE2008, assuming he's male, is actually exhibiting with what he wrote. As an Asian young woman, you should be aware of this, and appropriately wary. Be mindful of the irrational fascination. Make ANY man like you for the content of your character and not the contents of your pants. If you find true love from a white male in the USA, more power to you. Be aware, though, of how your parents and family back home may or may not particularly like the idea; and don't discount basic cultural differences and how they may, over time, impact your relationship... for better or worse.
But, honestly, you're here to study, dear. So study. Stay focused... and a bit frosty.
Don't necessarily AVOID relationships, but just don't let them happen easily, either. School doesn't actually last as long as it seems. It only seems like a long time because it's such a large percentage of how long you've even been alive... and everything is relative. When you're in your forties, you'll think back on college's four years, and it will seem like such a short time that you'll swear you could do it standing on one foot.
Fall in love for REAL after school. Decide what swamp you're going to drain, and drain it. For now, school is that swamp. Drain that, and let all else wait.Asian girl, worried about making friends in US College?
Asian girls are very popular among American men, who are rather tired of crotch-scratching, foul-mouthed, hairly-legged, American feminist women. You will do well.
Anyone who attempts to dismiss this preference among American men for Asian woman as a ';fetish'; is humorously naive and pedantic.
You'll make friends! Don't worry about the jerks because they will hate anyone. You'll have a good time and don't worry about it. I wish more schools would have asian women! No but seriously your cool. Just don't get into trouble and always have respect towards others and you'll be liked. Join sports or clubs like chess, math, or whatever. Have fun because when you grow up you'll have to work. That sucks because bosses are strick and our economy sucks. Any way have real fun and stay safe. Good luck!
First of all, don't worry. Just relax.
Of course it can be scary going off to a foreign country and meeting new people there, but colleges are one of the easiest places to meet new friends.
The easiest way to make friends is to just try to get to know your classmates. Take whatever opportunities you get to start conversations and just talk to each other. If they invite you out to do something, always accept their invitation (as long as it's something you feel comfortable with). Even if their plan doesn't sound too interesting, at the least it's a good way to meet people. And if you really need help making friends, you can always join clubs or groups to get to know people better. Campuses always have lots of organizations looking for members.
And Americans also like to go out and party as much as anyone I've met from other countries, so you'll have that in common. Good luck.
How do I become friends with them?
Hey so I want to make friends with these 2 girls a year older than me.
They are being super nice to my bffl because their friend was being rlly mean to her.
She didn't do anything to me though but still. And they are nice in general.
They aren't really saying anything to me, and I want to be friends with them.
How do I become friends/hang out with them?
And get them to like me also?How do I become friends with them?
Hi there,
First of all let's look at friendships.
Friendships and relationships are underpinned by principles of trust, honesty, loyalty, integrity and respect amongst other criteria in equal measure by each party to that friendship. Of these trust is not a God given right but needs to be earned over a period of time.
Whilst we may make friends with people for one or more reasons, we have to start with the assumption that their values, ethics and code of morality are pretty much in keeping with our own. After all if you are anti-drugs you’d hardly want a drug addict as a bosom friend. Similarly we have to take for granted that the principles I’ve mentioned are in place. Just as it takes time to build up trust, so too time will enable you to evaluate whether the principles I’ve mentioned are characteristic of the person.
From this you will gather it is up to them to decide whether they choose to be friends with you. Whether they do or not, no one make make people like you. The bst thing to do is have a proper conversation with them when the opportunity arises.
Here are a few tips
It's a common misconception that good conversationalists always have amazing stories to tell and a well of jokes to dip into. In fact, what most people want from conversation is dialogue and interaction, not just one-way traffic.
A good way of creating this flow of dialogue is by asking questions in a specific way. For example, questions like: ';Do you live in London?'; can be answered with a ';Yes'; or ';No'; reply - not very good for nurturing conversation. Whereas: ';Where do you live?'; has scope for a longer, and hopefully more interesting reply. This is an open-ended question.
As a general rule:
Questions starting with 'are' or 'do' are closed questions, generating yes or no answers.
Questions starting with 'what', 'where', 'which', 'who' and 'when', are open questions, which need fuller answers.
If you're looking for something a little deeper and more involved then you could try out the probing questions. These start with words like 'how', 'why' and 'in what way'. But make sure you find the person interesting before you do this, as it might mean saying goodbye to an evening talking to others!
1. Don't talk too long without pausing for a reaction. More than a minute is usually too long. Forty seconds is ideal.
2. Never contradict or flatly disagree with the other person. It's an implied insult.
3. Don't be too forceful or emphatic in stating your opinions until you learn the other person's attitude.
The ability to talk well can be cultivated.
You need to show genuine interest in the person if your conversation is to be successful. Interest can be focused on the subject matter of the conversation or the person. Showing interest in the person is by far the better way as people generally like to talk about themselves.
A one to one conversation is easier than group conversation. In one to one conversation there are two main aims:
1. To get to know the other person.
2. To reveal some things about yourself.
Generally these aims should not be aimed at directly.
Attitudes to cultivate in dialogue are:
Interest in the person
Interest in the subject
Friendliness
Sincerity
Candour
Helpfulness
I am giving you a link and if you adopt the characteristics of the main character you may find this will help you.
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind…
They are being super nice to my bffl because their friend was being rlly mean to her.
She didn't do anything to me though but still. And they are nice in general.
They aren't really saying anything to me, and I want to be friends with them.
How do I become friends/hang out with them?
And get them to like me also?How do I become friends with them?
Hi there,
First of all let's look at friendships.
Friendships and relationships are underpinned by principles of trust, honesty, loyalty, integrity and respect amongst other criteria in equal measure by each party to that friendship. Of these trust is not a God given right but needs to be earned over a period of time.
Whilst we may make friends with people for one or more reasons, we have to start with the assumption that their values, ethics and code of morality are pretty much in keeping with our own. After all if you are anti-drugs you’d hardly want a drug addict as a bosom friend. Similarly we have to take for granted that the principles I’ve mentioned are in place. Just as it takes time to build up trust, so too time will enable you to evaluate whether the principles I’ve mentioned are characteristic of the person.
From this you will gather it is up to them to decide whether they choose to be friends with you. Whether they do or not, no one make make people like you. The bst thing to do is have a proper conversation with them when the opportunity arises.
Here are a few tips
It's a common misconception that good conversationalists always have amazing stories to tell and a well of jokes to dip into. In fact, what most people want from conversation is dialogue and interaction, not just one-way traffic.
A good way of creating this flow of dialogue is by asking questions in a specific way. For example, questions like: ';Do you live in London?'; can be answered with a ';Yes'; or ';No'; reply - not very good for nurturing conversation. Whereas: ';Where do you live?'; has scope for a longer, and hopefully more interesting reply. This is an open-ended question.
As a general rule:
Questions starting with 'are' or 'do' are closed questions, generating yes or no answers.
Questions starting with 'what', 'where', 'which', 'who' and 'when', are open questions, which need fuller answers.
If you're looking for something a little deeper and more involved then you could try out the probing questions. These start with words like 'how', 'why' and 'in what way'. But make sure you find the person interesting before you do this, as it might mean saying goodbye to an evening talking to others!
1. Don't talk too long without pausing for a reaction. More than a minute is usually too long. Forty seconds is ideal.
2. Never contradict or flatly disagree with the other person. It's an implied insult.
3. Don't be too forceful or emphatic in stating your opinions until you learn the other person's attitude.
The ability to talk well can be cultivated.
You need to show genuine interest in the person if your conversation is to be successful. Interest can be focused on the subject matter of the conversation or the person. Showing interest in the person is by far the better way as people generally like to talk about themselves.
A one to one conversation is easier than group conversation. In one to one conversation there are two main aims:
1. To get to know the other person.
2. To reveal some things about yourself.
Generally these aims should not be aimed at directly.
Attitudes to cultivate in dialogue are:
Interest in the person
Interest in the subject
Friendliness
Sincerity
Candour
Helpfulness
I am giving you a link and if you adopt the characteristics of the main character you may find this will help you.
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind…
How do I know if a girl friend wants to be more than friends?
Okay, so I am really confused about this friendship with a girl I have know for a little more than 2 years now.
Background Info:
We met at church when one of her friends brought her and I became friend with her, In fact, she might be the person I talked to the most when we were at church together.
I've had a kind of on/off crush on her since we've met. She has dated a couple of guys at my church and I've seen what their friendship has been like since they broke up. Because of that, I have been afraid to ask her out because I don't want to destroy our friendship. Just to let you know, we just talk, we never hang out. But it seems like as soon as I get over her, She somehow pops back into the picture. For Example, recently I started college, and she is taking Dual Credit classes (she is a HS senior) and we have a class together, so we were shocked to see each other.
Anyway, here is where the ';signals'; kind of started A month she got a new phone and asked for my number. One day she randomly called me to tell me class was cancelled, she had never done this before. Okay, now skip a couple of weeks of interacting with each other (as in no talking). Last Wednesday I had to sit in the hall while people took their test, and then She came out with some of her friends and started talking to me. I have an iPhone so she was curious on what the texting o the phone is like and made me send her a text. Friday comes along and she doesn't show for class. I decided hey, I'll text her to see where she was today. We talked a little and I eventually went to Wal Mart to meet some friends there. As I was walking with them, she by happened to be there as well and called me out excitedly. We talked a little and told me that she was going to go to this raunchy play at the college later, I told her I might go, so I raced to my friends and told them we have to go because this could be my chance. Anyway, later in the night we go to the play, I spot her and just acted like I didn't even know she was there. She then spotted me and asked to sit with her during the play (BTW I was already with a group of people). So anyway as we got to the seating area, the usher told us we were on totally different sides of the theatre, but somehow convinced them to let me go to the other side. So I went and as we were sitting down, She asked if I could tie her tie (She was dressed as a sexy school girl for halloween) and there was a little cleavage so I tried to tie it, but eventually took the tie and tied it on my own neck and gave it back to her (mistake, but I don't want her to think I'm a perv). Anyway, Since she is with her friends, I tried not to get involved and kept quiet, half way through the raunchy play, her friends want to leave citing that it was practically a porn(it was the rocky horror picture show). So as she was leaving with her group, she told me bye and hugged me. As she was walking, I asked if she wanted to go see a movie tomorrow. She said that she had already had a date with this guy from our class, she even called him geeky. So I felt crushed, especially since he is a douche bag who wears flip flops in Fall, so I told her to tell me how it goes. And then the last thing I did was probably one of the biggest things I regret, I said you look sexy. she gave me a giggly thanks and left. Anyway, I waited all weekend to here from her, and nothing, then At school today, we didn't talk, but that douche went and talked to her, and I think that she was kind of not interested, but being nice. I feel hurt and confused about all of this. Would somebody clarify this for me, and possibly tell me what I should do try and get a relationship going?
My friend tried to cheer me up by saying she obviously has a thing for me if she pulled me away from my friends at the play, but I'm not so sure about that.How do I know if a girl friend wants to be more than friends?
Friendship is a slow growing plant. Live a life that pleases your creator and ask him for the right girl in your life. It will happen and you will know. This works, it did for me. Be honest with her and yourself. It might be time to tell her that you really are attracted to her and would like to know her better. Then let her make the next move. Don't be shy. Ask her out and let her know how you feel. But don't jump too hard or it might scare her away.How do I know if a girl friend wants to be more than friends?
try and get to know her really well and become good friends first
DONT COME ON TOO STRONG!!! thats the biggest mistake most people make (yes i have done it many times)
the tie thing was cute!! its sooo cute that she asked you to do it for her
and she might have gotten that date at the movies to make you jealous because she though you'd ask her.
once you guys become good friends, just ask her. i know it seems completely out of the question, but trust me, any girl would love if i guy asked her that. if you're too scared, ask he on AIM or a text message.
good luck and i really hope everything works out between you guys!!
Background Info:
We met at church when one of her friends brought her and I became friend with her, In fact, she might be the person I talked to the most when we were at church together.
I've had a kind of on/off crush on her since we've met. She has dated a couple of guys at my church and I've seen what their friendship has been like since they broke up. Because of that, I have been afraid to ask her out because I don't want to destroy our friendship. Just to let you know, we just talk, we never hang out. But it seems like as soon as I get over her, She somehow pops back into the picture. For Example, recently I started college, and she is taking Dual Credit classes (she is a HS senior) and we have a class together, so we were shocked to see each other.
Anyway, here is where the ';signals'; kind of started A month she got a new phone and asked for my number. One day she randomly called me to tell me class was cancelled, she had never done this before. Okay, now skip a couple of weeks of interacting with each other (as in no talking). Last Wednesday I had to sit in the hall while people took their test, and then She came out with some of her friends and started talking to me. I have an iPhone so she was curious on what the texting o the phone is like and made me send her a text. Friday comes along and she doesn't show for class. I decided hey, I'll text her to see where she was today. We talked a little and I eventually went to Wal Mart to meet some friends there. As I was walking with them, she by happened to be there as well and called me out excitedly. We talked a little and told me that she was going to go to this raunchy play at the college later, I told her I might go, so I raced to my friends and told them we have to go because this could be my chance. Anyway, later in the night we go to the play, I spot her and just acted like I didn't even know she was there. She then spotted me and asked to sit with her during the play (BTW I was already with a group of people). So anyway as we got to the seating area, the usher told us we were on totally different sides of the theatre, but somehow convinced them to let me go to the other side. So I went and as we were sitting down, She asked if I could tie her tie (She was dressed as a sexy school girl for halloween) and there was a little cleavage so I tried to tie it, but eventually took the tie and tied it on my own neck and gave it back to her (mistake, but I don't want her to think I'm a perv). Anyway, Since she is with her friends, I tried not to get involved and kept quiet, half way through the raunchy play, her friends want to leave citing that it was practically a porn(it was the rocky horror picture show). So as she was leaving with her group, she told me bye and hugged me. As she was walking, I asked if she wanted to go see a movie tomorrow. She said that she had already had a date with this guy from our class, she even called him geeky. So I felt crushed, especially since he is a douche bag who wears flip flops in Fall, so I told her to tell me how it goes. And then the last thing I did was probably one of the biggest things I regret, I said you look sexy. she gave me a giggly thanks and left. Anyway, I waited all weekend to here from her, and nothing, then At school today, we didn't talk, but that douche went and talked to her, and I think that she was kind of not interested, but being nice. I feel hurt and confused about all of this. Would somebody clarify this for me, and possibly tell me what I should do try and get a relationship going?
My friend tried to cheer me up by saying she obviously has a thing for me if she pulled me away from my friends at the play, but I'm not so sure about that.How do I know if a girl friend wants to be more than friends?
Friendship is a slow growing plant. Live a life that pleases your creator and ask him for the right girl in your life. It will happen and you will know. This works, it did for me. Be honest with her and yourself. It might be time to tell her that you really are attracted to her and would like to know her better. Then let her make the next move. Don't be shy. Ask her out and let her know how you feel. But don't jump too hard or it might scare her away.How do I know if a girl friend wants to be more than friends?
try and get to know her really well and become good friends first
DONT COME ON TOO STRONG!!! thats the biggest mistake most people make (yes i have done it many times)
the tie thing was cute!! its sooo cute that she asked you to do it for her
and she might have gotten that date at the movies to make you jealous because she though you'd ask her.
once you guys become good friends, just ask her. i know it seems completely out of the question, but trust me, any girl would love if i guy asked her that. if you're too scared, ask he on AIM or a text message.
good luck and i really hope everything works out between you guys!!
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