Asian girl, worried about making friends in US College?

I currently live in Asia, and will be starting college as a freshman in the USA. I graduated from a international secondary school, and had no problems making friends... but they were all Asians (although it was an international school, there were only a few non-Asians). Now that I'll be living in the US, I'd like to be able to befriend more non-Asian people.





Although I was quite shy during middle school, in my senior years I became more outgoing made quite a lot of friends. I wasn't popular or unpopular, and would get along pretty well with people who weren't very close to me. I'm worried that this is all going to change in the US :(





I used to live in the States from 3rd-5th grade, but that was elementary school... and I have no idea how I'll be able to make friends with teenage Americans! I don't watch TV series, my interests mostly have to do with Asian things, I'm not a huge gossiper, but I like to go out and party (which is completely legal where I live for my age). My friends over here consider me as fun but sometimes anti-social because I don't text/msn much. Any advice on how I'd be able to make American friends- both girls and guys? Not that I don't want to become friends with Asians, it's just that all the friend groups in my high school were basically divided into different ethnic groups and I don't know how to make friends with non-Asians :S Help would be greatly appreciated!Asian girl, worried about making friends in US College?
You're probably worrying too much about it.





And you probably shouldn't try to be too much like American kids, anyway. Many of them have lost sight of what's really important in life. Too much partying, too much drugs, too much video games, too much texting, too much music and TV...





...and not enough reading, thinking, contemplating, studying., etc.





It sounds like you're already there... appreciating and living those things. Don't come here and screw it up because of peer pressure!





Be your own person. Be humble, yet assertive when necessary. Be kind and generous. Be friendly and courteous. Be caring and a good listener. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Have the courage of your convictions, and be yourself, not what you THINK you should be because everyone else is.





Do these things, and finding friends will take care of itself. As long as you don't come across arrogant or cool or aloof while doing it, believe me, friends will desire you... and flock to you in droves. Maybe not at first, mind you... but the word will get around. Depending on where you are going to school in the US, you may, as an Asian, be a bit of a novelty. If so, people will already be talking about you. If you're really remarkble and amazing and nice and kind and polite and caring and obviously interested in others, believe me, they'll be talking about THAT the most.





And friends will come. Just don't let them corrupt you. People always want others to do as they do so that they don't feel like they're standing out in the crowd... or that they're the odd ball. Don't fall for it if you think it's not right. Use your good sense and judgement. Follow your gut. Pay heed to your upbringing. Not everything your parents taught you was stupid.... as you'll learn, and will become glaringly apparent to you, as you grow older.





You'll be fine. This is a new adventure. Embrace it with enthusism, not fear or dread. We Americans put our pants on one leg at a time, just like you. And our poop stinks, too. We're not special. But you, actually, seem to be. Good for you. Hold onto that and let it be that which differentiates you, and makes others like you.





Hope that helps. Good luck!





EDIT: While I was writing the above, PE2008 wrote: ';Asian girls are very popular among American men, who are rather tired of crotch-scratching, foul-mouthed, hairy-legged, American feminist women. You will do well.';





Ha!!!!





[shakes head in disbelief]





First of all, PE2008 is obviously under a common American male misconception. As the questioner will affirm, Asian women are by no means timid or passive unless they darned well WANT to be. Most of them can verily kick most white males' butts! Ah... stereotypes.





At any rate, it is true that there is something of an ';Asian fetish'; among certain white American males... as PE2008, assuming he's male, is actually exhibiting with what he wrote. As an Asian young woman, you should be aware of this, and appropriately wary. Be mindful of the irrational fascination. Make ANY man like you for the content of your character and not the contents of your pants. If you find true love from a white male in the USA, more power to you. Be aware, though, of how your parents and family back home may or may not particularly like the idea; and don't discount basic cultural differences and how they may, over time, impact your relationship... for better or worse.





But, honestly, you're here to study, dear. So study. Stay focused... and a bit frosty.





Don't necessarily AVOID relationships, but just don't let them happen easily, either. School doesn't actually last as long as it seems. It only seems like a long time because it's such a large percentage of how long you've even been alive... and everything is relative. When you're in your forties, you'll think back on college's four years, and it will seem like such a short time that you'll swear you could do it standing on one foot.





Fall in love for REAL after school. Decide what swamp you're going to drain, and drain it. For now, school is that swamp. Drain that, and let all else wait.Asian girl, worried about making friends in US College?
Asian girls are very popular among American men, who are rather tired of crotch-scratching, foul-mouthed, hairly-legged, American feminist women. You will do well.





Anyone who attempts to dismiss this preference among American men for Asian woman as a ';fetish'; is humorously naive and pedantic.
You'll make friends! Don't worry about the jerks because they will hate anyone. You'll have a good time and don't worry about it. I wish more schools would have asian women! No but seriously your cool. Just don't get into trouble and always have respect towards others and you'll be liked. Join sports or clubs like chess, math, or whatever. Have fun because when you grow up you'll have to work. That sucks because bosses are strick and our economy sucks. Any way have real fun and stay safe. Good luck!
First of all, don't worry. Just relax.





Of course it can be scary going off to a foreign country and meeting new people there, but colleges are one of the easiest places to meet new friends.





The easiest way to make friends is to just try to get to know your classmates. Take whatever opportunities you get to start conversations and just talk to each other. If they invite you out to do something, always accept their invitation (as long as it's something you feel comfortable with). Even if their plan doesn't sound too interesting, at the least it's a good way to meet people. And if you really need help making friends, you can always join clubs or groups to get to know people better. Campuses always have lots of organizations looking for members.





And Americans also like to go out and party as much as anyone I've met from other countries, so you'll have that in common. Good luck.