How do I become friends with them?

Hey so I want to make friends with these 2 girls a year older than me.

They are being super nice to my bffl because their friend was being rlly mean to her.

She didn't do anything to me though but still. And they are nice in general.

They aren't really saying anything to me, and I want to be friends with them.

How do I become friends/hang out with them?

And get them to like me also?How do I become friends with them?
Hi there,



First of all let's look at friendships.



Friendships and relationships are underpinned by principles of trust, honesty, loyalty, integrity and respect amongst other criteria in equal measure by each party to that friendship. Of these trust is not a God given right but needs to be earned over a period of time.



Whilst we may make friends with people for one or more reasons, we have to start with the assumption that their values, ethics and code of morality are pretty much in keeping with our own. After all if you are anti-drugs you’d hardly want a drug addict as a bosom friend. Similarly we have to take for granted that the principles I’ve mentioned are in place. Just as it takes time to build up trust, so too time will enable you to evaluate whether the principles I’ve mentioned are characteristic of the person.



From this you will gather it is up to them to decide whether they choose to be friends with you. Whether they do or not, no one make make people like you. The bst thing to do is have a proper conversation with them when the opportunity arises.



Here are a few tips



It's a common misconception that good conversationalists always have amazing stories to tell and a well of jokes to dip into. In fact, what most people want from conversation is dialogue and interaction, not just one-way traffic.



A good way of creating this flow of dialogue is by asking questions in a specific way. For example, questions like: ';Do you live in London?'; can be answered with a ';Yes'; or ';No'; reply - not very good for nurturing conversation. Whereas: ';Where do you live?'; has scope for a longer, and hopefully more interesting reply. This is an open-ended question.



As a general rule:



Questions starting with 'are' or 'do' are closed questions, generating yes or no answers.

Questions starting with 'what', 'where', 'which', 'who' and 'when', are open questions, which need fuller answers.



If you're looking for something a little deeper and more involved then you could try out the probing questions. These start with words like 'how', 'why' and 'in what way'. But make sure you find the person interesting before you do this, as it might mean saying goodbye to an evening talking to others!



1. Don't talk too long without pausing for a reaction. More than a minute is usually too long. Forty seconds is ideal.



2. Never contradict or flatly disagree with the other person. It's an implied insult.



3. Don't be too forceful or emphatic in stating your opinions until you learn the other person's attitude.



The ability to talk well can be cultivated.



You need to show genuine interest in the person if your conversation is to be successful. Interest can be focused on the subject matter of the conversation or the person. Showing interest in the person is by far the better way as people generally like to talk about themselves.



A one to one conversation is easier than group conversation. In one to one conversation there are two main aims:



1. To get to know the other person.

2. To reveal some things about yourself.

Generally these aims should not be aimed at directly.



Attitudes to cultivate in dialogue are:



Interest in the person

Interest in the subject

Friendliness

Sincerity

Candour

Helpfulness



I am giving you a link and if you adopt the characteristics of the main character you may find this will help you.



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