How do I become best friends with this girl again without losing my other best friend?

Ok this is hard to explane. My best friends and I were all together and eveything was kool untill my one best friend said a very racial remark about hispanics and that caused a fight.... Well she said sorry and has a lot of crap going on now and me, my best friend sam and siondra are her only friends left, and i want to be best friends again but sam dosent and i am afraid of losing sam if i am best firneds with caitlin again.How do I become best friends with this girl again without losing my other best friend?
just try and talk to sam about this. i always talk to my friends and its works. but really talk about this situation and convince her that caitlin can be a good person. she should understand if she is a good friend.

if she doesn't, well, try to be caitlin's friend without sam knowing :-)How do I become best friends with this girl again without losing my other best friend?
Lots of confusion !!!
alright look if these two are both your friends and they are supposed to be your best friends then neither one would drop you just cause of another person that they dont like they are supposed to be in it for you and not everyone else
Explain to Sam that Caitlin apologized and you just want you all to be friends again. If Sam is a good friend, she will understand and want to make ammends. Perhaps you should try to sit everyone down and talk about it just to get it out in the open. Explain to Sam that you do not want to lose her as a friend but you would like to make up with Caitlin as well. As long as you are open and honest, everything should be fine.
Just get a new group of friends why should anyone get mad over someone else just because you want to be friends with them.
You can only have 1 best friend.



That is why they are ';best';.



I don't know your age. If you were a girl I would guess 13 to 15?

If you are a guy, maybe 16 to 19? At those ages, people change friends often, and it always seems like a conflict.



Just stay calm, and get along with both as well as you can, and don't worry about them getting upset....that is their problem.
real friends forgive
well if your friends have to choose youre friends for you then there not your friends ok so you just need to choose youreself by asking ';which on of them are more caring understanding'; so just go out hter and find out youre self
Friendship goes both way. You cant be someones friend if they want it. If you were his best friend, then you would have stood up for him and defend his position, honestly and frank. Friendship is earned and it seem you choose to passup that opportunity to earn it.

Sam may be angry now and not thinking straight, but you did not step in and help him hen he needed it. So I would first apologise for that and hope he will accept it. That may renew the friendship.

But right now, dont blame Sam, Caitlin is wrong and shoud be made to see that. You must do the right thing.
talk to both of them. if the one that was in wrong has already said sorry, try to bring them together, may be do some thing where they both are there!
OK if you and her had a fight and she said sorry, right?

and you want to still be her friend and your other friend doesn't want you'll to be best friends again so maybe this other girl isn't a true friend because your other friend is supposed to consider your other friends feelings because no ones perfect and people makes mistakes.



I hope I got this story straight!
there's sumthin called having more than one or two best friends...who cares if sam doesnt want to be friends with caitlin then thats her problem..its ur choice and u shuldnt care if sam doesnt want to be friends with caitlin..you will be the better person out of all this..and if sam is gna be mad and not be friends with u .. then shed be missing out on a great friend.u..