How do become good friends with girls? i don't want them to think i want them...?

i dont have heaps of friends, and no close friends that are girls.. there is this one girl i like who i think is very nice but i dont want to be too over the top.. i just want a good friend. thank youHow do become good friends with girls? i don't want them to think i want them...?
I don't know how old you are but hopefully this will help.



When we moved from one city to another, my son (who was 8 at the time) was worried about making friends at a summer day camp he was attending. I encouraged him to just talk to a few kids every day until he found a couple of kids he got along with. It worked real well for him, and within about a week he had a lot of casual friends.



In your case, it's about the same thing. If you want, start with the girl you mentioned in your question; just find a time to talk with her. Ask her a couple of questions about herself -- that's always a good way to start a conversation -- everyone likes people to take interest in them, and also to talk about themselves. Then you can also share some info about yourself in the conversation. Here are some conversation starters:



- So, did you get your homework done?

- What did you do your project on?

- (if you know she's interested in a sport or other specific hobby, you can ask about that, for example:) Did I see you on the soccer field last weekend? What position do you play?





If you want to proceed quickly with making friends, set some goals for yourself. For instance, promise yourself to talk to a specific number of people each day (1, 2, 3, whatever seems realistic but a little challenging to start with). Gradually you will find it natural to talk to new people and you will develop some new self-confidence. With my son at the summer camp I was mentioning, I actually offered him $1 for each kid he got the following information from:



- What school they go to

- What grade they were in

- Where they lived

- How many brothers and sisters they had

- He also had to share his information with them



In about a week I paid him $22, and then I stopped paying him when I heard a chorus of voices wish him goodbye when I picked him up at the end of the week.



Your situation may be a little different, but the concept should work just the same.



By the way, there is a book that is very easy to read (it's an old one but the information is very useful) called ';How to Win Friends and Influence People'; by Dale Carnegie. If you read it and use the information, you will probably find (as I did) that most people are just like you - they want to make friends but don't know how.



Good luck!How do become good friends with girls? i don't want them to think i want them...?
If you're NOT, just act like you're a homosexual.

They seem to get along with women just fine.
Approach the situation as a friend. She'll know the difference.
Just be yourself around girls and mostly act like a friend and not like your going to ask them out. do not try to be something your not.
Be friendly and natural. Show a sense of humor. Don't show that you are flirting.